Sent: Wednesday, September 27, 2006 2:17 PM
Subject: September 2006 Update from Nicole Humphrey
I have been through a busy month!
We have had one young woman come to HH to apply for the position of house staff… she was here for a week before she realized that this is not the place God has for her right now. She’s dealing with a lot of grief right now in her life and isn’t emotionally healthy enough to handle the drama our girls produce. Please lift her up in your prayers, her name is Elizabeth. This means… we are still praying for more house staff. We would like two more women to come and join our work. The first weekend in October we will have a young woman named Tiffany come to interview, please pray for us as staff and her that God will make it very clear to all if she is the right fit.
During the week that she (Elizabeth) was here I was asked to ‘semi-officially’ step into the position as lead house staff. I know that I said in my last letter that I am the lead house staff… but… that information was incorrect, I have not officially been given this title (I still get the responsibility of it… hmmm…). It was a very intense week for me because I had the responsibility of training a new staff member while still carrying through with my responsibility as house staff.
We also found out at our staff meeting on Tuesday that our teacher who has been here for 3 years will be leaving us because her husband has to relocate for a job. That means… we are praying for a new head teacher AND still praying for a teacher’s assistant. We know that God is preparing hearts right now to come fill these positions. We are praying for the strength to endure the strain the short-staff situation is causing.
This past weekend we had a “Home Visit” weekend. Our girls earn different types of ‘home visits’ based on behavior, anything from a few hours on the property with their parents to three days and two nights away from our property. One of our girls’ mother decided that she would remove her daughter from our program after their visit together. This news was very hard to take emotionally because this mother-daughter relationship is still very unhealthy. The girl was not at a point where we were comfortable recommending her to leave (that’s the healthy way we terminate a girl from the program). Please pray for this mother-daughter relationship and that the girl is able to remember what she has been taught in our care.
There’s the very real possibility that we may be adding two more girls to our number within this next month, which will be very exciting! I was privileged to sit in on the interview with the parents. Before a new girl comes to our program the girl’s parents tour our home and explain to my boss Ms. Sandra why they feel their daughter needs to come to HH.
This past month I have also had the privilege of sitting in on two parent-daughter counseling sessions. We bring the parents of each of our girls in about two times a year. The parents sit down with either Ms. Carol Lynne and Ms. Sandra or Ms. Sandra and myself and discuss the reason they sent their daughter to the program, how their daughter has improved, the areas their daughter still needs to change and our plan of action as staff. Then, their daughter is brought in and encouraged to be open and honest with her parents. Usually these sessions are very emotional for all parties involved, but the changes we witness in the girls and the relationship they have with their parents is a beautiful God-thing. We truly are being used by God to restore the hearts of the children to their parents (Mal 4:6). I know it sounds weird that this is happening away from their parents, but it IS! We know as staff that these girls are not ours, they are God’s, they belong to Him. After God, their loyalty is to be to their parents and then staff. We love them, but they are not ours to keep.
All of the girls are currently memorizing Rom 6 and Is 40 so we as staff are also memorizing these passages… It has been hard but my memorization skills are slowly returning. These are both beautiful passages to know! So I am thankful for the challenge.
This is getting long… but I thank you for your prayers and encouragement.
I welcome any questions and replies.
His faithful servant,